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Jealousy test via master_talon_tx:

http://discoveryhealth.queendom.com/access_jealousy.html

A few choice quotes on jealousy from their preamble to the test results:
  • Studies support the idea that those satisfied with their romantic attachments feel the least jealousy.
  • While we can't necessarily stop this unpleasant sentiment from dropping in from time to time, we can control how we choose to act when it hits.
  • For every jealous feeling there is an emotion lurking behind that is much more significant than the jealousy itself. Jealousy is just the finger pointing at the fears that we are afraid to face.

I found that I was doing a lot of meta-thinking in trying to answer some of the questions in the test. In a few of them, the possible reactions listed didn't accurately reflect how I would act, and I suspect that some of them (talking about an incident, for example) were weighted as more jealous than I perceive them -- I feel that "I don't care; it doesn't matter" isn't as good an answer as "talking openly about the event," simply because open communication is desirable to me, but I suspect the authors felt otherwise.

I scored an 8 out of a possible 100, with 0 being asbsence of jealousy, 65 being extreme jealousy, and 100 being pathological jealousy. (Pleasant scale, isn't it?)

(( I'm going to put more graphics and stuff in here from the results page, and more details stuffs about the breakdown of my score. Because I can. Until then, here's the intro blurb that's associated with my score. ))

What does your score mean?

Most people who are involved in an important relationship carry a certain amount of fear and feel threatened by the possibility of being displaced and losing a partner to someone else. After all, these things happen, and when they do, it is usually very painful. Very few people display a blatant lack of jealousy. You appear to be one of them.

If you were honest with yourself while taking the test, this means that you are so secure, so strong, independent, and rational that the possibility of losing your partner to someone else is not threatening to you. That does not mean that you do not care; you would certainly be sad or crushed as anybody else. However, you know that if it ever happens, you will survive with your self-esteem intact, with your head up and with dignity. You realize that even though you might love your partner very much, s/he is not the only compatible creature on earth, and that you would eventually find happiness with someone else. Such feelings give you a sense of security and strength to trust, and allow you to be comfortable in the relationship. This, in turn, boosts the chances of a lasting and fulfilling relationship. The only word of caution: Make sure your partner does not perceive your unshakable lack of jealousy as lack of interest or affection.


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I got 7.

Many of the questions were pretty tough for me to answer accurately in that forced-choice format. For example, in the question about my husband flirting with another woman at a party, thinking "Yeah! You go, honey!" and leaving him alone to get to know her (because I know that if anything was 'happening' he'd tell me later) wasn't an option. In the question where an attractive woman is looking at him, poking him and pointing out "Hey, don't you see that hot chick over there? She's been looking at you all night! Go talk to her!" also wasn't an option.

Many of the questions just didn't provide accurate answers for our relationship

I scored a 2 ... same details on what the score means though.

Interesting questions. Makes me realize that there are people out there who would react in some of the ways that the questionners posed as possibilities (having affairs just because your wife has a sexy dream involving a movie star).

Results of the Jealousy Test
General Index
Your score = 2

What does your score mean?
Most people who are involved in an important relationship carry a certain amount of fear and feel threatened by the possibility of being displaced and losing a partner to someone else. After all, these things happen, and when they do, it is usually very painful. Very few people display a blatant lack of jealousy. You appear to be one of them.


If you were honest with yourself while taking the test, this means that you are so secure, so strong, independent, and rational that the possibility of losing your partner to someone else is not threatening to you. That does not mean that you do not care; you would certainly be sad or crushed as anybody else. However, you know that if it ever happens, you will survive with your self-esteem intact, with your head up and with dignity. You realize that even though you might love your partner very much, s/he is not the only compatible creature on earth, and that you would eventually find happiness with someone else. Such feelings give you a sense of security and strength to trust, and allow you to be comfortable in the relationship. This, in turn, boosts the chances of a lasting and fulfilling relationship. The only word of caution: Make sure your partner does not perceive your unshakable lack of jealousy as lack of interest or affection.


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